I have hit a bad spell

[chrish15]

Hi everyone, I just would like some advice if anybody has experienced what I am experiencing right now. I am a senior in college now, and I have just hit a very bad spell with my speech as of the past month probably the worst it has been as to I can remember. I have become very upset with myself and everything, very unlike me. Being my last year, knowing I have to go out and get a real job, my first and only girlfriend I ever had who I liked like no other breaking up with me probably hasn't helped. I am in a rut, I am trying my best right now to stay positive, my main problem is my negative thinking about almost everything, as well as way to much anxiety when speaking situations come about. I am in speech therapy in college, and the outlook is good, my therapist is a stutterer himself who has accepted is stutter and is quite fluent with techniques.

I am trying my best to accept my stutterer, and apply the concepts I have learned in therapy. I started to become more open about it to people I meet, but thats a few people who come up and talk to me. This is the hardest thing to do, because its so much easier to just sit around and not go out and do anything. I don't want that though, its been tough, if anybody has been through a time like this and who has accepted there stutter, I would appreciate any advice.

Thanks,
Chris

[Standingtall]

Chris,

I hear you my friend. I have been there myself and ever now and then I find myself in a rut. We all go throught it. When I go to a social event, on the way, I'm scared out of my mind. Thinking why I am going, I should have stayed home, etc.. But when I get there, I take a deep breath, walk in and by the end of the night, I forget about my fears. I usually have a smile on my face and thinking about the good time I had and glad that I went.

Sorry to hear about your girlfriend. After a while you learn to appreciate what you have on your arm. Acceptance is different for each of us. The way I use to see it, the snowball turned into a 6 foot snowman. Sure, my stutter influenced who I am, but I accepted the snowman first and the snow ball fell into place. I looked at myself and seen I was shy, but not shy by nature. I love to talk and talk to anybody. I am working on that. I don't know if this is making any sense to you or not.

I guess if you are in a rut, go four wheeling. I guess the simple thing is to change something in your routine. Take a quick walk before your breakfast.

Well, that is a start i'm sure other people have other ideas. Hope that helps. Good luck.

[chrish15]

Thanks a lot for your input standingtall and power of three. I am doing my best to keep positive and just be happy for what I do have around me in friends, family.

Chris

[nbakunda]

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